For GUYS Only!

A few months ago, I was grabbed by this urgent need to do a series of posts for Ladies Only. They were all written on topics that were especially close to women’s hearts and while some of the posts were written by me, I also had incredibly brave and touching posts by Val, Bridget, and Helen. And at the beginning of each post, I had a disclaimer for the guys that the post had been written specifically for women. Well, ladies, guess what? TODAY’S POST IS FOR THE FELLAS ONLY! My dear friend, Anne Lang Bundy, after some extended discussions with me about the Ladies Only posts, felt led to offer the following post to me to post if I so wished. I read it with my jaw on the ground and immediately thanked her. So, here she is with a word for the Fellas Only. 

For Men Only

By @Anne4JC

Today’s post is for men only, both married and single. Ladies, you’ve been warned, and are free to skip this. Gentlemen, though imperative verbs are used for convenience, this simply offers suggestions—which I’ve prayed will benefit you—for you to take or leave.

Let the wife see that she respects her husband.

~ Ephesians 5:33 (NKJV)


Men, do not accept disrespect from any woman. You may wisely choose to do no more than quietly disregard it, but do not allow it to emasculate you on any level. Your Creator made you to be strong and virile and noble. If you receive ridicule from a woman into your mind, heart or soul, it will weaken you. If a woman disrespects another man and you agree with her, look for the day she does the same to you.

Though you are entitled to respect, your demand for it from a woman will obtain no more than superficial deference and likely far less, which neither empowers you nor inspires her. If you’d have a woman’s respect, first prove yourself worthy of it, then ask for it with your own respect.

If you’d prove yourself worthy, remember that every woman is another man’s daughter or wife or potential wife, and the Bible shows you how they should be treated.

Husbands, likewise, dwell with them with understanding, giving honor to the wife, as to the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life, that your prayers may not be hindered.

~ 1 Peter 3:7 (NKJV)

The Bible tells you to understand women, so please stop the negative reinforcement of saying you can’t. If you don’t understand women, it’s time to start.

Though she is quite capable, her Creator made delicate woman weaker than you. Her power lies in her ability to birth life, whether physically or relationally. Regardless of what she says or does, her femininity is the core of her identity.

If you appraise her by outward appearance and devalue her inner beauty, you dishonor her. If you have sexual communication or contact with a woman who is not your wife, you dishonor her. If you enjoy your wife’s body but fail to take pleasure in her soul, you dishonor her.

If you fail to honor woman because you lack understanding, your strength will cause her injury. Your Maker has unusual compassion for the weak, and utmost contempt for those who oppress the weak. If you would have Him regard your prayer, use your strength to protect woman.

Beloved, do not avenge yourselves, but rather give place to wrath; for it is written, “Vengeance is mine, I will repay,” says the Lord.

~ Romans 12:19 (NKJV)

No one can hurt you like a woman. You are yet compelled to honor her. Whatever payback she deserves must come from the Lord’s hand alone.

Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her … So husbands ought to love their own wives as their own bodies; he who loves his wife loves himself.

~ Ephesians 5:25,28 (NKJV)

Whether you confer honor or injury to woman, it will come back to you from Your Maker, for a man reaps what he sows so that God is not mocked. (Galatians 6:7) The highest honor you show your wife is to love her tenderly, as Christ loves His beloved church, laying down His life for her. If you lay down your own desires and thereby lay hold of divine power to love your wife, you glorify God’s Son and have high favor from the Father.

© 2010, Anne Lang Bundy

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  1. Thanks for the good advice. My wife makes understanding women easy…and loving her even easier. I’m very blessed that way and know it.

  2. I am printing this up to stick on my wall. I’m just saying.

  3. Very good! If I understand my wife, I don’t have to understand all women right? That seems a little daunting! I am doing my best though.

    I agree completely on all points. Thanks for this well-thought out post, Anne.

  4. Sarah Salter says:

    I was so amazed when I read Anne’s blog post! It was amazingly insightful and far more open and honest about this topic than I’m used to women being. I was so proud of her for what she said. Also, as a woman, this was absolutely instructional and it set a standard for me, for the future. GREAT post, Anne! Thank you so much for contributing! And thank all you guys for coming by!

  5. Sarah, I appreciate the opportunity. Thank you! I don’t know that I would be so open if not for the Friday posts you’ve been doing, and the suggestion to do a post for just the guys.

    I’m really encouraged by their comments … though from those three I probably expected such a great response. 😀

    (Blog looks GREAT, Sarah!)

  6. Fantastic post.

  7. Excellent suggestions and comments, Anne. This article deserves a wide reading.

  8. Felecia Stevens says:

    Anne, Absolutely excellent communication! You are a gifted writer, for sure 😀 Keep sharing your gift.

  9. Nice, Anne … 🙂

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