Taking Off the Band-aids

“Never let ‘em see you sweat.”

Isn’t that how the saying goes?

We know it so well.

We hide our hurts, our struggles, our sicknesses, our pain, our weaknesses. We put on our brave face, our game face, our plastered-on smile, and make believe that even though they can see the blood running from our busted knee, it didn’t really hurt, we’ll be just fine.

We smile some of our prettiest smiles while the blood flows…

And the world likes it that way.

They say, “How are you?” But all they’re willing to hear is, “I’m doing well, how are you?”

And they slap a band-aid over their own seeping chest wounds and hold up the mask, “Very well! Nice weather we’re having.”

We’re all liars.

You know, Jesus didn’t try to hide his hurts, at all. Oh, he wasn’t a whiner by any stretch of imagination. But when he got up on that cross and bled and died, he didn’t fake it with a smile on his face.

And when Jesus comes to me and says, “How are you?” He wants me to trust him enough to lay down the mask, peel off the flimsy band-aids, and show him the depths of my pain.

Not only does he welcome my pain, but he can fix it.

He welcomes me just the way I am, but he won’t make me keep on suffering the way I always have.

That’s grace.

“Jesus encourages us to acknowledge our weaknesses and then cling to him for the grace to function in spite of them.” – Andy Stanley, “The Grace of God.”

This post is part of a weekly discussion of Andy Stanley’s book, “The Grace of God.” You don’t have to read the book to join the discussion, but if you have written a response to this chapter, please run by my co-facilitator, Jason Stasyszen’s site, and link it up on the widget.

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  1. Sarah, sometimes I swear we’re on the same wave – not wavelength; you’re riding the same wave I am 🙂 I am not reading the book, though I’ve been following yours and Jason’s writings on it. The post I put up earlier this afternoon echoes a lot of the same themes…you haven’t taken up working with the NSA so you can peek over my shoulder, have you? 😀

  2. Sarah Salter says:

    No, Rick. I left the NSA because they didn’t pay well enough. 😉 #kidding

  3. I really dislike being fake, but then I can fall into the trap just as easily as anyone else. I think it’s because it’s easier to hide and pretend, but we’re only momentarily delaying the breakdown that’s coming. Good thoughts, Sarah! Thank you.

  4. Sarah Salter says:

    Jason, with me, I’m sure that part of it is the fact that I was raised that we don’t show “the church people” what we’re going through because as a pastor’s family, we should be doing better. VERY hard habits to break.

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