Where’s That Darn Backspace Key…?


Have you ever wished that your life had a backspace or delete key? I have. I’ve spent hours upon hours reliving my life in my mind, wishing I could turn yeses into no’s or no’s into yeses or words of insult into words of kindness – or even silence.

An example is, perhaps, in order.

When I was in high school, a barn burned down in our neighborhood one night. I remember standing in the dark, in my pajamas, watching the volunteer firefighters putting out the blaze which, thankfully, did not spread or harm anyone. I, of course, felt badly for the family, but I had this little voice sniping at the back of my brain. This barn had belonged to a family who had several sons. And in the weeks prior to the fire, one of the boys – not a bad kid, just a normal mischievous boy – had intentionally run into me on my bicycle. I wasn’t hurt, but my bike was irreparable. And the day after the fire, while chatting with a girlfriend at school, I made a bitter and inappropriate remark that I bet one of those boys had burned down their daddy’s barn.

Predictably, as soon as the words were out of my mouth, I wished I hadn’t said them. It was too late, though, and by the end of the day, it was all over school. And by the time I got home from school, my parents were there, prepared to show me the error of my ways. Deservedly.

It’s rare that we get second chances in life. No do-overs. The bell can’t be un-rung. And most of the time when we screw up, all that’s left are consequences – broken relationships, broken hearts, broken promises.

Growing up in church, one of the words I heard a lot was “repent.” And from everything I saw in “real life,” repentance had everything to do with grudges and consequences, and nothing to do with forgiveness. I still remember the look in the eyes of the oldest of those brothers when I apologized. And we never were friends again…

But our authors flip my small idea of repentance completely on its head.

“What if repentance wasn’t a promise from you to God but a gift from God to you?”

Rich Mullins once said that God is like the kid that gives you a bloody nose and then gives you a ride home on his bike. I wish that the day Sam ran into my bike, he had stopped, hopped off of his bike, and helped me to limp mine home. Because I think that the bitter, angry kid I was needed to see Jesus like that. But though my regret about my words and my repentance about my actions didn’t prevent me from facing consequences and may not have earned me forgiveness from those boys, it still did give me a second chance. I have the chance to learn from my sin and next time, to act like Jesus. And that, my friends, is a gift.

This post is part of a weekly discussion about the book, “The Cure” by Lynch, McNicol, and Thrall. You don’t have to read the book to stick around and chat. If you did write a response to this chapter, however, you can link it up at the widget below. Then, go visit my co-facilitator, Jason, and see what he has to add to the discussion.


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  1. Forgiveness is definitely a gift from God. He offers it to us, models it for us, and call us to live in it. His forgiveness goes beyond uttering the phrase “I forgive you.” It cleanses our conscience of the shame of our wrong.

    But to receive it, we have to accept it. And to accept it, we have to likewise forgive.

    It’s a hard road to travel on so many accounts… But it is the road to being made whole in love.

  2. I’ll probably go into it in next week’s post, but I spent quite a while yesterday using the process outlined in this book to forgive people that have affected my life in profoundly negative ways. It wasn’t a “part the heavens” kind of experience, but powerful nonetheless. You don’t always realize what’s there or how it affects you until He shows you. For me, it’s then like, “Duh. That makes sense,” but I just couldn’t see it. Forgiveness is so key. Thanks Sarah.

  3. There are many things I’d like to change about my past. Some things haunt me. But I’m learning to take them to God and leave them there. I don’t need to carry them around with me. I can’t change my past, but I can decide how I live right this moment. And I don’t want to waste time and energy looking back.

  4. Oh, Sarah, so very grateful for the backspace key… aka repentance. This sounds like a great book!

  5. Sarah Salter says:

    Dusty, it may just be me, but I always find myself to be the hardest to forgive…

  6. Sarah Salter says:

    Jason, thanks for the sneak preview of next week! Forgiveness is always something I need to hear more about! (And talk more about.) 🙂

  7. Sarah Salter says:

    TC, I was just talking to someone about this last night… I have no trouble giving things to God. I just have trouble leaving them with Him…

  8. Sarah Salter says:

    It is, Jody!! 🙂

  9. Forgiving self is difficult for sure… But how can we claim to have accepted God’s forgiveness if in turn we do not allow Him to purify our conscience (Hebrews 9:11-14) making it to where we can forgive ourselves?

    Easy said. Not easily done – we are SO hard on ourselves!

  10. Sarah Salter says:

    Dusty, it’s hard. I don’t really grasp WHY He loves me. And so, it’s hard for me to find reasons to love myself. Same with forgiving myself…

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